At the Oakwood Center, we help
individuals struggling with issues around anger and anger management
with a nine-pronged approach:
1. Assessment of the difficulties
with anger management, taking into account personal and family history,
as well as environmental, physical and intrapsychic issues.
2. Screening for substance abuse which
may be contributing to the problem with anger management.
3. Screening for the presence of mood disorders that may be contributing
to the anger problem.
4. Screening for the presence of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)
which can give rise to problems with self-regulation and anger
5. Teaching a progressive relaxation / meditation technique that,
combined with some specific visualizations, can quickly begin to give
the client a sense of control over what has been experienced as
6. Teaching conflict resolution and communication techniques that help
the individual to reduce frustration and get his or her needs met
without resorting to angry outbursts.
7. Exploring aspects of family and social history that may have
contributed to the anger management issue.
8. Exploring unconscious conflicts that may be contributing to the anger
9. If appropriate, referrals for consideration of the use of
psychotropic medication can be made.
The 4 “Appropriates”
We help people who lose control of their anger learn to recognize,
tolerate, and express their anger in an appropriate manner, at an
appropriate time, with the appropriate person, to an appropriate degree.
People who have problems with explosive anger are often so frightened of
loss of control over their anger that they suppress and repress even
subtle forms of anger, such as frustration and mild annoyance. They
clamp a lid on the proverbial boiling kettle, allowing internal pressure
to build and build. Eventually, some relatively small trigger leads to a
full-blown explosion – harming their relationships and further
When they calm down, they may be remorseful and beg forgiveness. But, in
the meantime, they have re-validated for themselves how very toxic and
dangerous their anger is. They resolve to exert even greater efforts to
keep their anger under wraps, thereby promoting a vicious cycle of
suppression of appropriate anger, and build-up of inner tension, leading
to further inappropriate explosions. We can help people extract
themselves from such vicious circles, and help them find healthier ways
of dealing with their anger.
The Oakwood Center was established in White Plains in 1977, serving
Westchester County, NY
Therapy in Northern
Oakwood Center has a second office in Pound Ridge, NY, also in
Westchester County close to Bedford NY, New Canaan and Stamford CT.
Directed by Marvin Markowitz, Ph.D. and Roberta Markowitz, LCSW, the
Pound Ridge office offers therapy and counseling among other services in
northern Westchester County.
Many individuals seek therapy because of worries about different aspects
of their lives that are affecting them adversely. They may be concerned
about difficulties at work, school or business and relationships. They
may feel anxious, sad or depressed regarding any number of problems,
such as loss of a partner, wife or husband, trauma, alcohol and
substance abuse, or other addictions. They may be concerned about their
own irrational behavior, or the irrational or difficult behavior of a
family member, friend or coworker. Sometimes anger is a major problem
for individuals and treatment for anger management can be helpful.
Children and adolescents are often troubled by a variety of problems for
which parents may seek help. Many problems become evident in the course
of school. A child or adolescent may have difficulty paying attention in
class, forget or avoid homework, not study for exams, unduly
procrastinate, or act up in inappropriate ways in class. These behaviors
may be due to different causes and can often be treated successfully in
Children and adolescents can exhibit bouts of anger and even rage or
destructive behavior, which can be aimed at siblings, parents, friends
or others. Parents may feel overwhelmed, frightened and concerned about
their child’s angry and/ or impulsive behavior and feel at a loss as how
to deal with it. A consultation with a therapist is helpful in such
instances. Often therapy for the child or adolescent, as well as parent
counseling is helpful. Children and adolescents may become involved with
substances and require specialized substance abuse treatment, individual
therapy and family therapy.